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Are you still living with the sting of what somebody said about you? It’s been how many years? Please do yourself a huge favor and get over it. It doesn’t have to be that way. Besides, someone’s opinion of you quite frankly is none of your business.

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We Don’t Get to Choose


audrey-cherAudrey Cher is the best inspirational, gospel singer in Chicago, hands down.

Her listening party, sure to be one of the best in Chicagoland. The perfect venue, a new album about to drop, a talented songstress for sure, compared to the likes of Jill Scott, Lela Hathaway, and Chrisette Michele.

Yet, the highly anticipated listening party never happened. Why?

Nobody supported Audrey.  Well, actually, her family didn’t support her.

Her family, doesn’t know how important it is to just show up, no amount of $$ to spend, just show up, no venues to rent, just show up, no food to cater or buy, just show up, no albums to buy, just show up.

What is it about supporting family who step out on faith that people don’t get? Personally, I am massively thankful for the support and kudos I continue to receive from family and friends. Yet, unfortunately, there are key people in my life, special people, close to me who don’t support my efforts, nor do they understand what I’m doing in putting myself and my talents out into the universe.

It’s a scary place to be.

Those of us who constantly and consistently put ourselves out there, out in the limelight, out in the atmosphere, not knowing whether or not we’ll be ridiculed, accepted, loved or talked about.

Did I say scary?

When you love your craft and know your skill you do it anyway. You do it because you knowAudrey_Cher_CD-300x265 it’s your place to be in the world. You do it because you know your talent is going to bless someone, help someone, make the difference between life and death to someone.

You do it because you know some body gotta step up, step out, and put themselves on the line for the masses.

Still, family can sometimes be the closest, yet at the same time, the farthest away from us.  Do you have a family member who just doesn’t get you?  A family member who says things that are so out of line with the essence of who you are?

Unfortunately, we don’t get to choose our biological family.  But we do get to choose our reactions.  We do get to choose our reality.  And we do get to choose love, even if from a distance.  Sometimes that’s just how it has to be.  And sometimes that is the best way.

Now that brings it back around to you.

Are you the family support, the crutch, the rock, or the kill-joy?  It’s not too late to make a new choice.  For yourself or your family.

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P.S. You’ll have the opportunity to hear Ms. Audrey Cher at one of my upcoming Empowerment Events. Stay tuned. Talk to me today.





Ain’t Nothing Open That Time of Night…Except Some Legs


You don’t know me and this is a helluva a way to introduce myself.

Honestly, I have to give credit for that title line to my friend Cassia.  One evening, as we laughed about the tales men tell, it occurred to me that women’s lives and our ability to function at our highest and greatest level is intricately impacted by the men we allow in our lives.

Ain't NothingA friend who I won’t name gave up on her relationship when in her words, “I just got tired of him coming home night after night, reeking of other woman.” This beautiful lady finally moved on and is currently in a loving and respectful relationship that keeps her laughing, living, and enjoying a victorious life of abundance.

Still, another sister friend shared the impact of being in a physically and emotionally abusive* relationship that had her going through her man’s phone and email, and where she found herself following him clad in only a bathrobe and slippers in the wee hours of the morning in sub degree Chicago winter weather.  This escapade resulted in a serious assault that landed her in the hospital from not only a tragic beating but also a serious bout with life threatening pneumonia.  The demise of the relationship, needless to say, was a step up.

Here is what I know:  We are not our past, or current circumstance, for that matter.  Every hardship, every damaging relationship, every negative experience, is part of a greater plan to propel us forward to walking in the reality of our true destiny.  Our genuine calling.

Sadly, too often we fail to realize our greatness because we accept a lie, we accept the false definition, rather than embracing the reality of who we are meant to be.  One of the saddest realities is to never experience the true life, the God given, purposeful destiny that is set before each of us at birth.  To never claim the purpose filled journey we were all meant to live is tragic.

So let me share five ways you can start walking in your purpose in spite of relationship drama or your current circumstance:

  • Believe In Yourself – People say believe in yourself, yet if you weren’t raised that way, it can be a difficult thing to do. Nevertheless, you have to do it. Make a promise to stop doubting yourself. Stop second guessing yourself. You have to put an end to that right now. You cannot expect someone else to believe in you if you won’t even believe in yourself. And you certainly won’t be treated like the Queen Bee that you are.
  •  Understand Your Gifts and Purpose – Diligently seek out what you are good at and use that gift to bless someone and make your own life better. And before you start thinking you don’t have any gifts, just stop already. Everybody has a gift and a purpose. Understanding your gifts and purpose is a topic all by itself. We’ll talk more about it later, for now just work on operating in your gifts or discovering your gifts and purpose.
  • Be A Giver – When you hold your hand (and heart) tightly closed, nothing will get out and nothing will come in either. Release, let go.
  •  Put Fear In Check – This is a hard one. I struggle with it myself. You know those people who appear to be brave and bold? They’re fearful too, but they do stuff anyway. Do it afraid! On the other side of fear are great blessings, great rewards. You cannot live a victorious life, cowering in fear of every freaking thing.
  •  Don’t Quit – And finally whatever you do, don’t ever give up. You are called to do a great work here on earth, to leave your mark and to make the world better for those who come after us. You were built for this. So don’t ever call it quits.

There you have it, my tips to help you start claiming your destiny. It’s never too late. Of course I’m not a relationship counselor or a marriage counselor, or a therapist, yet I have attended the School of Hard Knocks and these are some of the lessons I’ve learned.

Now let’s move forward. We got work to do and some powerful lives to live.

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*If you’re in an abusive relationship contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline at or 1-800-799-7233, reach out to a friend, a family member, your child’s teacher, a health care professional, co-worker, or pastor.  Tell someone, do not suffer in silence.*