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Opinionated Opinions



Are you still living with the sting of what somebody said about you? It’s been how many years? Please do yourself a huge favor and get over it. It doesn’t have to be that way. Besides, someone’s opinion of you quite frankly is none of your business.

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Sing Your Song

A bird doesn’t sing because it has an answer, it sings because it has a song.
-Maya Angelou

Love me some Maya!  Back in high school, sitting in Ms Ray’s 9th grade English class is where I first encountered Ms Angelou.

Now understand Ms Ray was not one of my favorite teachers.  In my teenage mind she was someone trying to make me conform to what she saw as important in the world.  And I wasn’t having it.  You see I wasn’t always the sweetness you know now, 😇.  Anyway one day Ms Ray gave us, the class, a list of suggested books to read.  On the list was Maya Angelou’s, I Know Why the Caged Bird Sings.  Because the title seemed odd I was intrigued.  I chose it and read it.

That book was a game changer, life changing even.  At age 14 it gave me such an insight into the world, living life, making choices, rising above circumstance, deciding to stay or not,

navigating critical circumstances.  Human character, deceit, betrayal, ignorance, and yes love.  Yep Maya became my mentor, my sistah of the heart.

Now regarding her statement about birds, songs, and singing;  here’s what I believe Maya is saying:  You don’t have to have all the answers to get started.  Just start. Go ahead and sing!

What’s your song?

Are you a beautiful bird needing to break from your cage?  Are you ready to soar among eagles?  Or are you playing it safe and remaining in the confines of your familiar spaces?  This is a challenge, break free, I dare you.  Click now, break free.

Love ya,

PS.  I later gained a genuine appreciation for Ms Ray.

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Don’t wait.

Perfecting Imperfection

Perfection is about trying to avoid the hurt of being judged and criticized or feeling you are not good enough. You think it might protect you from being judged, but in fact it protects you from being seen. -Oprah

Today, I was musing over the fact that a friend of mine walks totally to her own beat. She’s a very successful business woman yet, she doesn’t always do things in a traditional manner. Oh she gets it done, just not always when and how you might expect.

Here’s the thing though, she has such a wonderful, giving, and charming, demeanor that quite often I actually find myself overlooking the fact that maybe she didn’t do what she told me she would do at the time, or in the manner, she said she would do it. The girl is really smooth. And just as I was thinking about her slickness, I ran across the above quote from Oprah.

I had to smile, because my friend-girl, could care less about perfection and she often says, “Done is better than perfect.” (Did you catch that?)

Being perfect is actually not in my genuine DNA, yet there was a period in my life when I went through a self imposed season of perfection. What I quickly learned was that trying to be perfect leads to an unreasonable standard of expectation. The people around you start acting like you really are perfect! And that my friend, is totally exhausting.Perfection

Can you imagine your family and friends expecting you to never make a mistake?! Well, I had to give that up and get a whole bunch of people in check…cuz I could not keep that perfection thing going.

So the next time you’re beating yourself up about some tiny, imperfection that no one, but perhaps you, even recognizes, stop and be gentle. Give yourself a break. Think about what’s your real reason for wanting to be so perfect? Are you afraid? Are you really scared of being judged in some way? And if you are, where is that coming from?

Are you afraid of being seen? Why?

Ask yourself these questions and really get inside your own head and heart and find out where this is coming from. It doesn’t have to be that way. Perfectionism is likely having the exact opposite outcome that you are seeking.

Love ya!

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How To Get What You Want, Even When You Don’t Know What It Is

You know, there are so many other things you could be spending your time doing.  Yet, here you are reading my words.  I appreciate that.  It let’s me know I’m special…just like you are.

Right now I’m thinking about all of my big “whys”, my big reasons for sharing this space and meeting you here.  Back when this blog was just a goal on my check list of “to do”, back when it was just a placeholder of a blog to be, I recorded a message that I want you to hear.  A message asking you a really simple question.  Simple and complex, at the same time.

Hear me out.  Listen, below, then answer me.  Trust, it’ll help both of us.  Listen in, its short.

What Do You Want.mp3

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Shine Your Light



(Shining Light)

Why are you waiting?

What are you waiting for?

This is not a dressed rehearsal.

You only get one shot.

Aim! Take Aim!

Target missed. Target missed?

Target missed!

Do not quit.

For the race is not won by the swift.

The mighty, or the strong.

The race is won by she who endures.

You are still standing.

– Ecclesiastes 9:11, Cynthia Hutson


So, again I ask what are you waiting for?

Why are you hesitating on doing what you dream of?  What’s your excuse (err…reason)?

One of my Facebook friends asked if anyone ever wondered about life’s what ifs. You know, what if this, that or the other thing had happened, instead of, what really happened in life.

As long as we are standing, as long as we are breathing, as long as we are of sound mind– even kinda sound mind  🙂  —the what ifs are actually today’s possibilities. In all honesty, each year is going to pass whether you do your thing or not.

Reasons like lack of opportunity, lack of money, waiting until the time is right, waiting for “your turn” or asking permission are pretty useless, time sucking, wasteful tactics, that keep us from living at our fullest potential. Frankly, I prefer to ask forgiveness, rather than permission.

We have to be daring enough to find and make opportunities and money, by creatively strategizing and being committed to making what we want a priority. Then we have to take action! In spite of the fear, and know that our choices are valid, correct, and meaningful.

Hey, I care enough to tell you the truth.

Now here are five ways you can start making your “what ifs” very solid and real possibilities:

  • Set the intention. Make a decision that you are going to start that business, write that book, begin a daily exercise routine, or whatever your specific goal is. Then watch how the universe will conspire to make you successful. You just have to take the first committed step.
  • Be daring enough to do what scares you. Honestly, each time I pour my heart into this blog, each time I hit that send button, each time my words go out into the world never able to be pulled back, retracted, or changed, it scares me to no end. Yet I know my words are serving, building up, someone –and that is more important than my own personal fears.
  • Stop operating by what other people think. No matter how hard you try, someone is going to be disappointed about something you say or do. That is their problem and it is really none of your business.
  • Show genuine care, concern, and kindness for others, particularly strangers. You never know when you might be in the presence of angels.
  • Promise to give yourself only positive self talk. Be gentle, be kind, but firm. This is also when you will want to consider working with an accountability partner, such as myself. I can hold you accountable and help you stay on track to accomplishing all that you have set out to do.

Shine.  Shine your light.

Love ya,


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The Zen of Miracles

I had two miracles happen today, one regarding finances and my daughter’s college, the IMG_0678other a breakthrough business opportunity. It felt like both just dropped from the sky. Well yeah, I guess they did, my God was up there in the heavens, decided to drop down some manna, and I so, so, appreciate. it.

Trust, God is still in the miracle working business.

In our frenetic, fast paced lives, I think we forget that God does work miracles, yet we have to be open to receive them. We gotta be like we were as kids. Remember when you believed stuff just because you believed it? Even when people said you were stupid or that no such thing could happen?

I remember when I was eight, I told my cousin that I had a sister, and she told me NO YOU DON”T! But I kept saying, YES, YES I DO! Then she pushed me and told me to shut up, because I didn’t have no damn sister. I pushed her right back and the fight was on!

Well she kicked my behind, (she was 11 and I was 8), but when I got up off that ground, I told her no matter what she said I HAVE A SISTER! And as soon as my cousin turned to walk away, I called up all the strength I had in my 8 year old body, made the tightest fist I could make, and hauled off and hit her squarely in the back with all the strength my 8 year old body could deliver.

Then, I ran like hell!

Why am I telling you this story? Because I didn’t know why I felt the way I felt, but I strongly, and passionately believed what I believed and I refused to believe otherwise.

zen miraclesAnd lo and behold just, five short years later, when I was 13 years old I met my sister! A tall, good-looking, brown skinned, teenager with gorgeous eyes and beautiful hair. It was one of the most amazing days of my life! Even though we wouldn’t have a relationship until our adult lives, I still trusted and believed that God had given me a sister. And the miracle didn’t stop there, because I met another sister in 2009 and to this day, she is a vessel of nothing but love.

You see God has a way of giving us the desires of our hearts, but we have to believe in miracles. We have to keep our hearts and our minds forever open to possibility. We can never, ever allow our hearts to become hard. A hardened heart blocks all miracles. And yep, it’s true, this natural life is full of a bunch of “-ish” that continually tries to snuff out our light.

Even with no proof, no social proof, no evidence, nothing, but a deep inward, gut, feeling, hold on to it. That’s your miracle waiting to be birthed. Hold on, it’s coming, hold tight, it’s coming. Trust, it is.

When was your last miracle?

Love ya!

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